I have been trying to set myself realistic goals for every two months. I found I often got myself buried under these massive goals and my own work and then my uni as well. It was of course all my own doing thinking I somehow have 12 more hours in the day than everyone else. Turns out I don’t and that’s just rude.
So my goals are just small ones, putting out two blog posts a month, exercising 4-5 times a week (I have leg issues so this is quite hard) as well as 10,000 steps a day. As my job is sitting at a desk, this one I find is a little tougher but more motivating as I’m forcing myself to move around on work days, on days off it is much easier to achieve because I rarely stay still.
Along with smaller ones such as clean eating, no or minimal junk food in the week and only have fizzy drinks at dinner. So you can tell all my small goals are health related. I have a very big goal for June I want to achieve and rather than overwhelming myself by thinking about it, I’m trying to break down what I need into two month goal setting. It makes me feel less overwhelmed and everything feels far more achievable and I don’t get the overload paralysis where I end up doing nothing.
Now although I want to be more proactive on this blog and my health, I didn’t want my mind to be left out. yes exercising and achieving goals does help a mindset in a positive way. Especially if you are going out for walks and getting fresh air and out into nature. However I wanted to do more for my mind, this stems from a genuine fear that one day I won’t remember anything in my life so I want to keep my mind agile and as active as I can.
So this prompted me to put a goal in where I finish a crossword once a week and at least one book once a month. These are not as full on as my other ones as I do also have uni to do so I feel my crossword and reading, while important, need to be fitted in properly. I do more of these where I can in the week for example when I finished an essay for uni I have a full week of no uni and then I can do more reading for fun.
As you can tell I try not to be strict with my goals and these are more guidelines of the minimum I would like to achieve. So whenever I finish a book I set it on my desk and create a stack that month of what I read. I did nothing in September it turns out, I tried but work got so busy and I basically found no time and when I had the time I couldn’t even focus because of interruptions. So imagine my surprise when from the middle of October to November I realised I had read four books in the space of a month.
Literally a book a week and I hadn’t even noticed that I had done it. I got so sucked in by these books I lost hours and didn’t even realise I was nearly done until it was pointed out to me how much I had read in a day. For example, the Miniaturist I read half of it in a day I could not put it down and very excited to read the sequel now.
So I set my goals, in hopes I would achieve them or at least try my best and I ended up doing better than I thought, because I wasn’t even trying. I’m not saying you should just forget you have goals and hope it works out… but breaking down my bigger hopes and goals into two month segments was a massive help to me. It felt less daunting and like I had plenty of time to reach them and do more if I could or wanted to.
I often get frozen when I realise I have too much to do and then end up doing nothing because it is like my brain short circuits and I know I am not alone in that feeling. so if you are someone who feels you have way too much to do, write it down. Honestly write it down and work out what is an absolute must and what can be done in parts or the next day. I don’t mean things to brag about either, I know the minds of some of the people who read this and this is for any thing you need to do or feel you must do.
You really need to take a shower and don’t have the energy? Sit down and do it, who said you have to stand?
You have massive piles of washing and it can’t wait anymore? Take out the things that need washed first and do them, the rest can wait until tomorrow it’s ok.
You have no energy to clean your entire house? Why do you need to do the whole house today… lets start with the bathroom and now you have one less to do.
Whatever you think you should be doing, you probably don’t. I removed a lot of stress by asking myself why I felt I had to do things, because I was raised that way? Because adverts and society told me this is how you should start your perfect day? (yes I’m aiming at you “influencers” of the ‘That girl’ morning routine. No one likes 5am mornings and grass smoothies) If you want to do something because YOU want to then go right ahead please, if you get overwhelmed by the things you think you should be doing… write it down and ask yourself if you need to or think you need to.
This is how I ended up breaking my goals down, I have more than the ones listed but I also stopped thinking I had to do certain things just because I thought it’s what I was meant to be doing. Removing the excess ended up giving me less stress and I actually passed my own goal without even realising I did it.
Focus on yourself, not what the internet is telling you to do. None of this ‘you’re doing everything in your daily routine wrong, do what I do!’ none sense. Just do what you want to do and be happy with what you are doing. If you think you should be doing more, try and remember it’s not true. You are doing exactly enough for you and your life, so stick with it and tell anyone who demands otherwise of you… to fuck off.